Yes...I know it's been a month since I last posted on this blog. For some reason, blogging has fallen to a lower place on my list of things to do each day. We've been busy plugging away at homeschooling, going to speech therapy, church stuff, and just life in general has felt busy. The pregnancy is going pretty well. The baby is healthy, Praise God! But the dreaded heart burn has kicked in. Seriously, this baby must be as hairy as Esau because I've never had it this bad! But I'm looking forward to meeting this new little member of our family. We aren't going to find out what it is...I figure I may need a little more motivation in the labor and delivery room!
The title of this blog is in reference to something I've been learning about myself lately. My cousin, Shar got to hear an earful of it this past weekend (thanks for listening!).
You know what I've realized? I am NOT good at this thing called being a mom. I'm not joking. I am not trying to sound humble. I'm being painfully honest.
Before I had children, I would watch other moms and see ways they could be doing better or I'd see really great moms and think, "that's what I'm going to be like". I think I had heard that being a mom was hard but in my prideful heart, I thought it would come easy and naturally for me because I had a good role model in my Mom.
Since having my own little kids, I have become painfully aware of my deficiencies. I am not a patient person. I am easily irritated. I haven't figured out how to always discipline in a calm manor. I am selfish and would often rather do my thing than be a better mom. When my kids act out in public I am more concerned about what people think of me than what this attitude displayed in my kids means in their life. When I got pregnant this time, I was upset because it meant I was going to be getting even more overweight...a heart of selfishness.
And yet, I have told myself, I just need to read the right book, or try harder and I will do a better job at being a Mom.
In the last few months, God has been slowly opening my eyes to my utter and desperate need for Him. I feel like He has been gently but firmly prying my hands free of the reins. It's like He's saying, "Rebekah, admit it, you are not good at being a mom...you can't do this if you're the one holding the reins!"
Man, it hurts! I hate having to admit that I am not naturally good at mothering. I hate going to bed at night feeling like I may have wounded my kids' spirits that day in a way that will affect their lives. I hate feeling like I am a failure at the most important job I've been called to.
But you know...I think it's the only way God would have gotten me to a place where I say, "I NEED YOU!!! God! I NEED You! I cannot do this! My kids are too precious to not do this job well. But I can't do it well without You teaching me how to do it. Like the hymn says, 'I need You EVERY hour'. Help me!" This was the cry of my heart as I wept by my bed the other day...a day when I hollered at my kids more than I didn't.
It's humbling to have to admit my need...but I am so comforted knowing that my dear Father in heaven is the One who fills my need. His wisdom will be enough. His grace will sustain me. I just pray that God will continue to draw me each day to my knees and remind me that I need Him in all the moments of my days. I don't just need His help...I need Him to lead the way and guide my every move, my words, my thoughts, my every interaction.
Oh Father, thank You that You hear my cry!